Today marks two years of marriage for Mike and I and I can't even believe it. In some ways it feels like our wedding was just yesterday, while in other ways it feels like we have been together for a lifetime. We have been through so much in the almost 5 years we've been together, and the last two have been exceptionally special. Like any relationship, our ups have been paired with some downs, but each new day we share is an absolutely epic adventure, filled with love, light, troubles, change, and happiness that I only ever dreamed. I wanted to share two things that both Mike and I have either learned or come to value over our two years of marriage. I thought it'd be a fun insight into our relationship and also for a way for you guys to get to know him a little bit! Spoiler: he's hysterical and almost never serious (unless he has to be). Without further ado...
1.) One of the biggest things I've learned over the course of our relationship is how to speak each other's love language. If you haven't read this book or taken the quiz, I highly encourage you to do it with your partner. What's interesting about Mike and I is that we have the same love languages. We both value words of affirmation and acts of service over the other three. While that's great in the sense that we know what the other likes because we ourselves like it, it also requires us to not forget about the other three (gifts, quality time, and physical touch), as they are important as well. Mike knows that he can make my day simply by sending me a nice text, and I know Mike appreciates the work I do around our home. However, it's always a nice surprise when Mike plans a weekend away for us or I find a small gift I know he'd love. Being cognizant of what each other appreciates helps our relationship so much. It's easy for us to focus on the love languages we value, but it also spices things up when we incorporate one of the other languages that isn't at the top of our list.
2.) Being married means that you're a part of a team. I'm not saying that all couples aren't teammates, but being married adds a deeper element to it. When you're cohabitating and all aspects of your life are entangled, it is just so much more obvious that you're attached to someone and you can't just think about yourself anymore. When it comes to sticky things like work, finances, family, etc, you have to be on the same page so your lives can go as smoothly as possible. While Mike and I have experienced an embarrassment of riches over our relationship, we've also had some tougher times that have forced us to work as one unit. I feel so lucky everyday that Mike is on my team and even when we're disagreeing, I remember that we're in this together and I automatically feel a bit better. Disagreements and hardships are inevitable in relationships, but if you remember that you're fighting for the same cause, which is the health and longevity of your relationship, it makes everything else seem so small.
1.) The most important thing I've learned about marriage is to have the ability to put a smile on Preeti's face because seeing her smile makes everything better. This isn't always easy, and it takes a lot of practice. She generally suffers through about 10 bad jokes before she cracks up.
2.) The next important lesson is apologizing, mainly, for having to listen to my bad jokes. The key to a good apology is sincerity, and I always look her in the eye when doing so. Here's a perfect example... 'Preeti, I'm sorry I made you listen to 10 jokes that weren't funny, so I'll give you a back rub.' **Bonus - apparently offering a back rub gets you off the hook for just about anything.
^^smart guy, LOL!